a note to a fren... whom i believe frequents my blog..
well, i believe u tell me abt ur current issues on a guy and his gf and u...
wat i really want to say is.. sometimes it is good to step back and let them have a chance to flourish.. but u have to consider.. is this the best way out? of cuz u might say yes if they worked out.. but have u considered.. wat if u 2 can work out as well? the chance of them working out is as good as the chance of the 2 of u working out.. (i mean there might be some difference but it doesnt realli matter) if tat is the case why put urself outside the picture.. will u feel happy if by letting the 2 of them together u end up hurting him more cuz of the increasing problems the rs brings him? will u regret u din do wat u wanted to do initially? well i had experience b4.. and tho i do not want to say my experience is absolute, wat i wan to say is that, becuz there is no absolute things in an rs.. u shd not assume anything...
i wanted to touch on the most sensitive topic.. tat is.. i believe there is no such things as selfishness in wanting to be with the guy u like... if u think by letting him go back to his ex (or gf, or watever) is a selfless action, i agree.. but i feel tat it is more stupid than selfless... emotions and love related stuff sometimes shd not be analysed so systematically (altho i do tat)... for me, i analyse them systematically, but i do not use systematic ways to decide my actions.. and to me, analysing systematically helps me to get a balance between being too rational and being too emotional...
anyway.. i juz wan u to noe there is nothign wrong in trying to get to know him better and let him noe u better and let him noe (for certain, not by guessing) that u likes him... if u still persist in ur own thinking, well at least do the above stuff to give him a chance to noe wat are the choices he has... i told u b4.. guessing someone likes u and knowing someone likes u are veri different.. it also affects how u make decisions.. some guys, not all, are afraid of rejection.. and as a result, there might be a possibility tat if he dunno ur feelings for him, he might take it u are not interested in him at all (juz to be safe) and remain in his comfort zone.
And b4 u start to think abt "as long as he is happy", u better stop.. there is nothing tat shows he will be happier or wat.. unless u are veri sure he WILL be happier if he chooses someting, else.. dun assume... well i can go on and on and on, but the more i say, the more i am proned to get shoot.. so i better stop here... u shd think abt it too...
wat i really want to say is.. sometimes it is good to step back and let them have a chance to flourish.. but u have to consider.. is this the best way out? of cuz u might say yes if they worked out.. but have u considered.. wat if u 2 can work out as well? the chance of them working out is as good as the chance of the 2 of u working out.. (i mean there might be some difference but it doesnt realli matter) if tat is the case why put urself outside the picture.. will u feel happy if by letting the 2 of them together u end up hurting him more cuz of the increasing problems the rs brings him? will u regret u din do wat u wanted to do initially? well i had experience b4.. and tho i do not want to say my experience is absolute, wat i wan to say is that, becuz there is no absolute things in an rs.. u shd not assume anything...
i wanted to touch on the most sensitive topic.. tat is.. i believe there is no such things as selfishness in wanting to be with the guy u like... if u think by letting him go back to his ex (or gf, or watever) is a selfless action, i agree.. but i feel tat it is more stupid than selfless... emotions and love related stuff sometimes shd not be analysed so systematically (altho i do tat)... for me, i analyse them systematically, but i do not use systematic ways to decide my actions.. and to me, analysing systematically helps me to get a balance between being too rational and being too emotional...
anyway.. i juz wan u to noe there is nothign wrong in trying to get to know him better and let him noe u better and let him noe (for certain, not by guessing) that u likes him... if u still persist in ur own thinking, well at least do the above stuff to give him a chance to noe wat are the choices he has... i told u b4.. guessing someone likes u and knowing someone likes u are veri different.. it also affects how u make decisions.. some guys, not all, are afraid of rejection.. and as a result, there might be a possibility tat if he dunno ur feelings for him, he might take it u are not interested in him at all (juz to be safe) and remain in his comfort zone.
And b4 u start to think abt "as long as he is happy", u better stop.. there is nothing tat shows he will be happier or wat.. unless u are veri sure he WILL be happier if he chooses someting, else.. dun assume... well i can go on and on and on, but the more i say, the more i am proned to get shoot.. so i better stop here... u shd think abt it too...
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