a veri thought inducing bulletin

taken from: http://www.friendster.com/bulletin.php?statpos=bulletintable&bid=96852133&uid=16252809

my friendster fren Wei Siong's bulletin. Find it very very meaningful.. haha

here goes:

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Sometimes, developing spiritually and learning more about ourselves and the world requires that we first "un-learn" some lessons of the past. We often get taught very powerful yet incorrect lessonsas we go through life.

Most parents would never hurt their kids but theyoften inadvertently do, by implanting debilitating messages - that who we are, what we do isn't good enough, that imperfection is not acceptable, that to be praised, to be loved, to be rewarded, we must be smart, good looking, rich, popular and respected. How many times have you seen aparent screaming to a child that he's careless, lazy, selfish or stupid? Will the child grow up to aself-affirming adult? Or will his sense of self-worth be affected?

Throughout our lives, we've been taught the value of pursuing perfection. That has led us to believe intrinsically that imperfection is wrong, that it'sincomplete, it's broken, it's bad. That we, andeverything else, always needs fixing.

A Sanskrit mantra roughly translates into: This isperfect. That is perfect. From the perfect, comes the perfect. If from the perfect the perfect is taken away, only the perfect remains.

Peace of mind comes from the realization that we're all perfect, that everything is perfect. Such is the sense of perfection we get when holding a baby, when making our partners laugh, when slaking our thirst with cool water, when looking at trees, when swaying to music, when inhaling thesalty breath of the sea. The miracle of Life, the beauty of Nature, the promise of renewal.

This sense of perfection is our greatest blessing.It's present at all times and doesn't require any healing or change to take place. You only have to open your eyes and notice what is, rather than trying to correct what you believe is wrong. In Japanese flower arranging it is common that one of the branches in the arrangement is bent or broken, to signify that the arranger has attempted to present the flowers in a "natural" state. It is the "imperfection" of the broken branch that makes it "perfect", or closer to what naturally is.

Each one of us, no matter how evolved we might believe ourselves to be, has imperfections and personal ego attachments. These imperfections and attachments are not something to be overcome or transcended, but rather something to be understood, appreciated, and accepted.Embrace who you are wholeheartedly.

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Indeed, i was thinking of this issue recently oso, especially cuz i was told of a problem, a girl reject a guy cuz she think she isnt good enuf for him. Well.. i used to have this problem.. thinking i am too imperfect.. but as times goes by, i realise, these so called imperfection are actually juz differences and not imperfection. In fact, it is these differences tat make us who we are, and especially when it comes to relationship. I dun think they is such a thing call i am better than him/her, that's y that person will definitely pick me over him/her. Although subconsciously i believe alot of ppl fall into this self dug hole.. (me included) i strongly feel that in love, such things are secondary... as i always think feelings, (fear, happiness, love, hate) tends to be and can be irrational, illogical.. they do not always conform to reason, so we shd not use reason to explain it...

i am not saying all feelings (all forms of happiness sadness, etc) are irrational, i am juz saying that not ALL of them are rational thoughts... eg, why are some ppl afraid of roaches? why do some ppl feel happy juz standing on an open grass patch in a cool afternoon? why do some ppl feel sad when someone totally non related to u dies? these may or may not happen to u, but it does happen to people after all..

anyway, if someone who thinks they are not good enuf for anything happens to read this.. noe this.. there is no absolute perfection, and ur strong pt maybe ppl's weak pt and vice versa... look at the big picture.. it helps..

And using the "reading" above, i inferred that there is no perfection without imperfection... and becuz of imperfection, human strive to do better, often forgetting that "imperfections" are not necessary bad... wat is bad is human's thinking and attachement of meaning to it... and not "perfection and imperfection" themselves..

haha i think i am becoming not veri concise.. i shall stop here and let u all tink on ur own...

p.s. my own comments are not base on the bulletin my fren post, they might represent 2 kinda of thinking, it is juz that his post make me think of this more and pen it down..